Have you ever while scrolling through the timelines of your social media channels or even after you've closed out of the app, suddenly felt down or inadequate? Or maybe, after having conversations with certain people or just being around some of those said people, left their presence irritable, drained, or any other negative feeling you can find to insert here?
Not sure about you, but unfortunately, I have. I have felt the weight of comparison, the burden of fear, and the loss of my peace just from being around some people and/or thumbing through my timelines on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.
I'm sure so many of you can relate. I've come to realize that I have to take charge of my peace and protect my peace of mind and peace of spirit from the pitfalls of social media, the negativity of some people, and the deception of my own mind.
Protect your peace from social media.
-I have spent anywhere from minutes to sadly even an hour, scrolling my Instagram or Facebook timelines. I mean, it's like you get on social media with the intentions of just "jumping on" for a second and before you know it, 20, 30, or 60 minutes have passed you by. It seems sometimes that the more time I spend on social media, the more I am sucked into the excitement of others' life.
From the #realationshipgoals to the #slayingforthegods posts, I start to feel the ugly reality of comparison creeping up inside of me. Suddenly, my life isn't as exciting as such and such because I'm not able to take amazing, lavish trips to tropical islands or I must not be doing something right because I can't afford the latest and greatest sneaker on the market.
When those feelings arise, I have to step back and say, "wait Destiney, social media is nothing but a highlight reel of someone's life. Why are you comparing your reality to someone else's highlight reel?" And in that moment, I have to back away from social media in order to protect my peace.
I remind myself that God has been good to me as well. I may not be able to experience some of what I see on social media but I have everything I need and more. I also remind myself that I have no clue how some of these people are really doing in real life or what they had to go through to have some of the blessings that are manifested on social media.
If you find yourself in this same position, know when to take a step back from social media and protect your peace of mind and peace of spirit.
Protect your peace from negative people.
-I have come to discover that some people are just flat out NEGATIVE! There are literally people in this world who are never happy for anyone else, who always find something to complain about, and who never have anything positive to say when asked how they're doing. You've encountered someone like this. I've encountered someone like this. We've ALL encountered someone like this.
Every time I've left the presence of someone spewing this negative spirit or as we say nowadays, negative vibes, I've left their presence feeling down or negative in someway. But what I've decided is that the joy I have, the world or no one in it, gave it to me, and I won't let anyone take it away from me. I will not let the negativity of someone else disturb my peace! Nope, not tuhday Satan or any day for that matter!
If you find yourself around people who only want to stir up mess, drama, gossip, and complain, let those people and relationships go. You have a choice as to who you hang out with and who you engage in conversations with. Protect your peace and let go of negative people!
Protect your peace from YOURSELF.
-It's one thing to protect your peace from social media and from other people but I have to sometimes protect myself from myself. I am my biggest critic, which can lead to doubt and fear deceiving me into thinking that I'm not good enough or I'm inadequate to achieve certain goals. But I know that's not the truth and I can't let my own doubtful thoughts disturb my peace and bring me into a defeated mental space.
I know that those negative thoughts are only the work of Satan to make me forget who I am and whose I am. In these moments, I remind myself that I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me (Phil 4:13) and that I am His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works (Eph 2:10).
So, let's get out of our own way and out of our own heads. We are good enough, capable enough, smart enough, pretty enough. You is kind. You is smart. You is important. ha!
Who or what is taking away your peace? Stop letting it and Protect. Your. Peace!
Love, peace, and sole!